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Moving soon? Benefits of Meeting the Neighbors

Posted by Anita White on November 5, 2014 at 1:30 PM

Moving your household has a major impact on your family. You’re faced with finding a home in a new neighborhood, packing all your possessions and adjusting to the new environment. Even if you move within the same city, you may still face significant adjustments.

 

Choosing a neighborhood that is a good fit for your family is one of the most important life decisions you will ever make. It can impact the schools your children will attend, the social networks you engagein and the number of hours you’ll spend each year in your commute to work.

 

Regardless of your family structure and specific needs, the neighborhood you choose will impact your overall quality of life and your day-to-day and long-term satisfaction.

 

Why Meet the Neighbors Before Buying a Home?

 

When selecting a new home, the Internet is a huge asset. Data on sale prices, floor plans, schools and general location information is easily accessible. You can also view pictures and videos of potential properties online.

 

However, the Internet is limited to a two-dimensional perspective. Even with Google Earth, it is impossible to get an accurate feel for a potential neighborhood. There is no substitute for a hands-on approach. You’ll want to walk or drive around the area to give you a three-dimensional look at the community you’re considering.

 

Spending time in the new neighborhood will give you a helpful perspective. Do you notice long-term road construction, barking dogs, a nearby airport or other factors that might impact your quality of life? Are people painting, planting flowers or working on other home projects, indicating pride in home ownership that will also maintain home resale values? These clues will support assessing whether the neighborhood is a good fit for your lifestyle needs.

 

How to Meet the Neighbors

 

A Realtor will help locate communities near your work, school and other important destinations. Your initial impression of these areas will narrow down possible neighborhoods.

 

After selecting a few locations that appeal to you, it is critical to make a physical inspection. Exploring the neighborhood from sidewalk level will allow you to observe features you wouldn’t notice from a car.

 

Walk along several of the streets at different times of the day. If it’s cold, drive around in your car. Are people walking their dogs? See if neighbors are outside during daytime hours and homes are lit up in the evening.

 

Determine whether your observations match the type of neighborhood you are looking for. Does it seem that most of the people are retired? Are there many children playing or riding bikes? Walk the routes you and your family would take if you lived in the neighborhood, such as to the bus stop, school, stores or activity center, to be sure you’re comfortable with the surrounding area.

 

If people are outside, introduce yourself. Conversations will give you a sense of what the neighbors are like and what they think about the area. Current residents typically provide relevant and honest recommendations since they understand the importance of the decision to buy a home in a new neighborhood.

 

If you see a sign for an upcoming homeowners’ meeting or neighborhood gathering, consider attending. Look for community Facebook groups. These venues can offer a sense of what is important to the neighbors based on issues they discuss.

 

Meeting a few neighbors and spending time in a prospective locale is part of the due diligence that will help build your confidence in your decision on a specific neighborhood. Could you see these people as members of your future support system?

 

When you buy a home, you’re getting not just what’s contained within the boundary of your property and the walls of your house. You’re buying more than a house; you’re buying a slice of the people, activities and culture of your new neighborhood.

(From Discover.com)

HYPNOSIS: How It Works

Posted by Anita White on October 19, 2014 at 2:35 AM


Our bodies routinely fight off illness. We self-heal and repair in spite of how we often disregard our own health. With hypnosis we are able to enhance our ability to heal and recover.

We can manage symptoms with less medication, control own comfort and level of relaxation and use creative imagery to look forward in time envisioning resolution.

The unconscious mind is our storage facility as well as our control center. It balances our breathing, heart rate, blood pressure and co-ordinates every step we take. It's a very powerful place. Once ideas or beliefs hang around long enough they begin to take root and grow into action.

Think of the unconscious mind as a greenhouse. In a fertile climate you can grow roses or poison ivy with equal success.

Hypnotherapy is the process of stepping into the greenhouse, pulling out the weeds by the roots and leaving positive healthy replacements. What our mind conceives or body achieves.

By Paul Gustafson

Real Estate and property "Estate"

Posted by Anita White on October 10, 2014 at 3:25 PM

Real Estate and property in "Estate."

 

Recently I assisted a family that lost their brother to type 2 diabetes. He died fairly young. One of his siblings called me on a Tuesday morning to come talk with her and her 5 siblings about selling his house. That afternoon I met them at the house. They told me they were all over 65 years of age. As I walked in, I realized they were all in a deep part of the grieving process: one of them in denial, some in disbelief, some anger and some deeply sad. Navigating the emotions and staying enough on point, was a skill I had learned in my Therapeutic Coaching training.

 

My job was a delicate conversation about selling their brothers home. He didn't have a Will so there was a legal process that had to tandem and work with the real estate process. I am grateful for the support of the paralegal that is managing the legal end of this transaction, as well as the other resources I had to garner to get this house on the market.

 

Today I shared this story with a wise woman in my network Dana Olson Erickson. She suggested I let people know this special area of expertise of real estate in "estate" Coaching. I assist family, friends and others in access the necessary resources to sell a home of a deceased or dying family member. Because of my grief education, coaching and facilitation experiences, I am able to coach family members through the emotional and material process of listing and selling property with solutions and compassion. Whether the property is in probate or not, I am an emphatic professional that can pace and lead the process.

Anger and Alzheimer's or Dementia

Posted by Anita White on September 26, 2014 at 3:20 PM

Aggressive behaviors may be verbal or physical. They can occur suddenly, with no apparent reason, or result from a frustrating situation. While aggression can be hard to cope with, understanding that the person with Alzheimer's or dementia is not acting this way on purpose can help.

Aggression can be caused by many factors including physical discomfort, environmental factors and poor communication. If the person with Alzheimer's is aggressive, consider what might be contributing to the change in behavior.

 

The main cause of behavioral symptoms associated with dementia is the progressive deterioration of brain cells, but other factors — such as pain — also can cause symptoms or make symptoms worse.

 

Physical discomfort

 

Is the person able to let you know that he or she is experiencing physical pain? It is not uncommon for persons with Alzheimer's or other dementias to have urinary tract or other infections. Due to their loss of cognitive function, they are unable to articulate or identify the cause of physical discomfort and, therefore, may express it through physical aggression.

Is the person tired because of inadequate rest or sleep?

Are medications causing side effects? Side effects are especially likely to occur when individuals are taking multiple medications for several health conditions?

How to respond

Try to identify the immediate cause.

Think about what happened right before the reaction that may have triggered the behavior.

Rule out pain as a source of stress.

Pain can cause a person with dementia to act aggressively.

Focus on feelings, not the facts.

Rather than focusing on specific details, consider the person's emotions. Look for the feelings behind the words or actions.

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Don't get upset.

Be positive and reassuring. Speak slowly in a soft tone.

Limit distractions.

Examine the person's surroundings, and adapt them to avoid similar situations.

Try a relaxing activity.

Use music, massage or exercise to help soothe the person.

Shift the focus to another activity.

The immediate situation or activity may have unintentionally caused the aggressive response. Try something different.

Decrease level of danger.

Assess the level of danger — for yourself and the person with Alzheimer's. You can often avoid harm by simply stepping back and standing away from the person. If the person is headed out of the house and onto the street, be more assertive.

Avoid using restraint or force.

Unless the situation is serious, avoid physically holding or restraining the person. He or she may become more frustrated and cause personal harm.

Share your experience with others.

Join ALZConnected, our online support community and message boards, and share what response strategies have worked for you and get more ideas from other caregivers.

 

 

reprinted from www.alz.org



"Bring the body and the mind will follow."

Posted by Anita White on November 19, 2012 at 10:40 AM


 

There are people, places and situations that trigger uncomfortable thoughts or feelings. I have fear, anger and disassociation as my key indicators. These thoughts and feelings may be conscious or unconscious.

 

I react in fight or flight. Which usually results in inconsiderate abandonment or harsh words, in essence self sabotage I may not be able to identify what is going on internally and I sometimes loose motivation and want to quit. I isolate, pout and disengage with life.

 

One of my strategies is to get out of my state of mind by filling it with conversations, fellowship or information.

 

Especially when I am grieving, my body has no desire to leave the house, but my mind can convince me get me to go. So I go to a meeting, support group or educational opportunity to focus on positive healing thinking.

 

The synapses in my brain grow when I am learning. I need the outside stimulus to do it, know it and feel it.

 

I may or may not be consciously aware of how the emotional shift happens, but the relief is welcome!


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